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Soul Mate - True Friendship

I am always looking for new friendships and the opportunity to discover a true friend.   In today's constant rush between family, friends and work it seems finding these relationships are nearly impossible in today's world.   While I have found it a challenge I refuse to give up.  I know there are people out there that are looking for the same true friendship and are perhaps at the same stages in their lives. 

I created this page to help find those potential friends and to give you an idea of what I am looking for and offer as a true friend.  I realize no one is perfect or possesses all these characteristics - that is simply unrealistic.   What I look for is a person who strives in this general direction - they want to be a better person who sincerely cares about others.   I look for the effort and desire - the rest are just details, friends support each other on the journey as we grow and learn.

I am always open to and actually prefer what they call "bromances", I don't like not being close to my friends - straight or gay.  Non-sexual intimacy is important to me as it forms a bond and trust that goes beyond acquaintance.  Being an INFJ this level of true friendship comes natural to me.

I will be the first to admit that I am far from perfect, but this is who I strive to be in life.  The point is to find like-minded people to learn and grow with.  Life is lived in sharing the journey...
-Brad  

This is how to make/keep an INFJ very happy:



A few of the qualities/characteristics (not requirements) I look for in a Soul Mate/True Friend are:

Kindness
Selflessness
Awareness
Respect
Humility
Intelligence
Compassion
Stability
Courage
Authenticity
Truthfulness
Trust

The more of these qualities/characteristics you posses the easier it will be for me to open up and create a bond with you.

Friends have to communicate well with each other, be accepting of each other's quirks and celebrate their differences.  

Friends should spring back after a disagreement and be forgiving of each others mistakes.

Friends should be there for each other when the other needs help without expecting anything in return.

Something to realize is simple karma, we must give/be the qualities/characteristics we want to receive.

True Friendship - Recognition
How can we find true friendship in this often phony, temporary world? Friendship involves recognition or familiarity with another's personality. Friends often share likes and dislikes, interests, pursuits, and passion. 

How can we recognize potential friendship? Signs include a mutual desire for companionship and perhaps a common bond of some kind. Beyond that, genuine friendship involves a shared sense of caring and concern, a desire to see one another grow and develop, and a hope for each other to succeed in all aspects of life. True friendship involves action: doing something for someone else while expecting nothing in return; sharing thoughts and feelings without fear of judgment or negative criticism.

True Friendship - Relationship, Trust, Accountability
True friendship involves relationship. Those mutual attributes we mentioned above become the foundation in which recognition transpires into relationship. Many people say, "Oh, he's a good friend of mine," yet they never take time to spend time with that "good friend." Friendship takes time: time to get to know each other, time to build shared memories, time to invest in each other's growth. 

Trust is essential to true friendship. We all need someone with whom we can share our lives, thoughts, feelings, and frustrations. We need to be able to share our deepest secrets with someone, without worrying that those secrets will end up on the Internet the next day! Failing to be trustworthy with those intimate secrets can destroy a friendship in a hurry. Faithfulness and loyalty are key to true friendship. Without them, we often feel betrayed, left out, and lonely. In true friendship, there is no backbiting, no negative thoughts, no turning away. 

True friendship requires certain accountability factors. Real friends encourage one another and forgive one another where there has been an offense. Genuine friendship supports during times of struggle. Friends are dependable. In true friendship, unconditional love develops. We love our friends no matter what and we always want the best for our friends.

Challenges Us To Grow
Sometimes friendship is not an easy relationship to enter into.   Sometimes there are many factors like communication that can create obstacles in building that true friendship.   While I am not perfect, I will do my very best and even place myself in peril to be there for a friend, earn their trust and to bridge the gap.  I will continue to commit myself as long as I feel there is honest and sincere reciprocation.   

As human beings we aren't always at the same point on our path in life, so not all relationships are meant to be when we might feel we want them most.   It doesn't mean we shouldn't always give it our best...  Sometimes we have to accept that our paths were just meant to intersect and not merge...

Please take time to read these friendship quotes.  I hope they will touch your heart as they did mine.   Thank you for taking time to visit and getting to know me a little better.

If you are NOT an INFJ - this is how to make us happy:







"What is a friend? 
A single soul, dwelling in two bodies" 
- Aristotle


“A real friend is someone who walks in when the rest of the world walks out.” 
― St. Francis of Assisi




 "If you love something let it go,
If it comes back to you it's yours,
If it doesn't, it never really was,
and it's not meant to be..."






One thing I have learned is that love is not about being straight or gay - male or female - young or old - this or that.  
It's about being human and the connections we share with all living things.  
We have to learn to pull down the walls, stop placing blame, be forgiving and overcome fear - even when it's uncomfortable.  
Love doesn't discriminate or judge - it just is...  as I have grown older and wiser I have learned what the philosophers and poets meant when they said,
'love is blind'...


What's Next?

If this is the sort of friendship you are sincerely looking for in your life, please email me.  
Life is too short and too precious not to have a few True Friends.


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“The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen.” 
― Elisabeth Kübler-Ross

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